After 138 wardrobe consults, I learned most women don’t need new clothes. They need new measurements.

How to read your mirror reflection like an architect, not a critic.

Oct 16, 2025

Quick note: we’re in Week 2 of The Wardrobe Architect Method.
Last week we played with outfit formulas (your style recipes).
This week, we’re diving into body architecture, understanding the structure beneath your clothes so everything you wear actually makes sense on you.

Every woman has had that moment.
You put on an outfit that looked chef’s kiss on someone else…
and in the mirror, it just looks… off.

You tug at it.
You pose sideways.
You blame your lighting, your body, maybe even Mercury retrograde

But let me tell you something
💡The problem isn’t your body.
It’s how you build around it.

And this is where body architecture comes in, my favourite topic ever.

Because understanding your body isn’t about learning that you’re an hourglass or a pear. That’s entry level.

Real mastery comes from knowing,

your frame (the bones of your architecture)
your proportions (where your balance lives)
your lines & ratios (how your upper and lower body visually ‘speak’ to each other)

These three together are what I call your Body Blueprint.

1️⃣ Frame

Your frame is the architectural base, your natural scaffolding.
Think of it like the scale of your body, the bones that hold the building up.

If you’re bold-framed and wear ultra-delicate jewellery, those pieces can disappear against you, making your frame feel even bolder.
If you’re petite and you wear oversized accessories, you’ll look like you’re playing dress-up.

Style isn’t about size, but harmony.

2️⃣ Body Shape

Now, this one gets all the attention, but it’s often misunderstood.

Your shape describes how your shoulders, waist, and hips relate in outline, your body’s silhouette.
But two women with the same body shape can want completely different results.

A curvy woman might want to celebrate her curves.
Another might prefer to streamline them into a more athletic silhouette.
Both are right, as long as the lines they wear reflect their intention.

That’s why I call it architecture through styling.
Because clothes aren’t decoration, they’re structure for your energy.

3️⃣ Proportions

This is where the ‘aha’ moments live.

In styling, proportions are everything, how your upper and lower halves visually talk to each other.

If your top half is longer (hello, long-torso crew 🙋‍♀️) and you wear low-rise everything… you’ll always feel something’s 'off.’

That was my client Melissa.
Beautiful, fit, incredible energy, but her mirror never loved her back.
She couldn’t see why her outfits looked unbalanced.

Until we realised she was emphasising her longer torso with low-rise garments.
One tweak, higher-waist trousers, slightly shorter tops, and boom.
Balance restored. Confidence downloaded.

Sometimes the problem isn’t you.
It’s a few centimetres of fabric placement.

Now, before we get too technical, let me tell you why this matters.

When I was younger, out of twelve cousins, I was the ugly duckling.
Not the late bloomer kind, just the one no one expected to bloom at all.

And one day, I decided, enough.
If the world wasn’t going to call me beautiful, I would.

So I did something wild.
I started brainwashing myself, on purpose.
I’d tell myself beautiful things until my reflection started believing me.

Compliments used to make me blush.
Now, they just confirm what I already decided.

And look at me now,

a woman who built her career helping others fall in love with their reflection.

I’ve been through every chapter,
the post-baby belly, the stretch marks, the “why won’t this dress zip today” moments.

I still have my days.
I check my belly in certain outfits. I adjust. I breathe.

But I don’t punish myself anymore.
I talk to myself with love.
Because that’s what changed everything.

When you start seeing yourself with kindness,
your posture changes.
Your clothes fit differently.
Your energy walks in before you do.

So when you look in the mirror, remember…
that reflection is your friend.
Would you tell your best friend, “ugh, look at your belly”?
Then don’t say it to yourself.

Style isn’t how you punish your body.
It’s how you honour it.

💸 And before you ask…

I don’t care if you’re a Zara-sale sniper, a Net-a-Porter loyalist, or a capsule wardrobe minimalist who could teach Marie Kondo a thing or two.

If you don’t understand your own architecture,
your closet will always feel like a confusing museum,
beautiful things, wrong rooms.

Because this is not about trends or brands.
It’s all about knowing yourself.

This is Week 2 of the Wardrobe Architect Method, and this pillar, Body Architecture, is where we start seeing transformation in real time.

And if you don’t know your body, it’s going to be really hard to ever see yourself dressed in a way you actually love, because the fit will always be off.

📏 Coming next: Measure Yourself Like a Stylist

I’m filming a short tutorial showing how I measure clients, shoulders, waist, hips, torso length, the works.

It’ll live in my private WhatsApp community, the one where we roast outfits, share formulas, and hype each other like best friends.💅

If you want in, comment “architecture.”
I’ll send you the invite.

The Wardrobe Architect