The Style Myth That’s Been Holding You Back – Issue #14
Why You’ve Been Looking for Style in the Wrong Place (and How to Finally Find What Works for You!) 2-min Style Personality Quiz Inside.
There’s a lie we’ve all been sold. A big, sparkly, Pinterest-board-worthy lie. It goes like this: You need to “find” your style.”
As if your style is some mythical creature, lurking in the depths of Instagram, waiting to be discovered. As if one day, you’ll stumble upon the perfect aesthetic, the one that suddenly makes everything in your wardrobe make sense. The one that turns you into that effortlessly chic woman who just knows.
Spoiler alert: That day never comes.
Because the truth is, you don’t need to find your style. You need to create a wardrobe that actually fits your life.
Why This Whole “Style” Thing Is Backwards
We’ve been conditioned to think that personal style is about picking a lane, minimalist, classic, edgy, boho, romantic. As if you’re required to pledge allegiance to one aesthetic and stick to it like a lifelong membership.
But real style isn’t about locking yourself into a category. It’s about making sure your clothes work for you, your lifestyle, your energy, your version of joy.
Because let’s be honest:
The woman who spends her weekends hiking and doing yoga in Bali doesn’t need the same wardrobe as the woman who lives for rooftop cocktails in New York.
The mom juggling school drop-offs and work meetings doesn’t need the same wardrobe as the artist who spends her days in a studio covered in paint.
And you? You don’t need a wardrobe that “fits a style.” You need one that fits you.
The Simple Formula for a Wardrobe That Works (and Works Hard)
Getting dressed should feel easy. It should feel good. It should feel like an extension of you, not a puzzle you’re constantly trying to solve.
And it can be that simple. You just need to start in the right place.
Not with trends.
Not with what’s “in” this season.
Not with someone else’s version of what looks good.
But with your life.
Where do you spend most of your time?
What are the things you actually do every week?
How do you want to feel when you walk into a room?
So Where Do You Even Start?
If you’ve ever stood in front of your closet thinking, Why do I have nothing to wear when my wardrobe is full?, here’s why:
Your wardrobe might be stuck in an old version of your life.
Maybe you’re still holding onto outfits that made sense in your past, when Friday nights meant heels and endless cocktails, but now your idea of a perfect evening is a glass of wine, a book, and your 10-step skincare routine.
Maybe you’ve built a workwear-heavy closet because your job used to demand it, but now you work remotely, and those tailored blazers are just… sitting there.
Maybe you’re in a transition phase, new city, new job, new mindset, but your wardrobe hasn’t caught up yet.
That’s why it feels hard. Not because you don’t have style, but because your wardrobe isn’t aligned with your actual life.
And buying more? That’s not the solution.
In fact, it often makes things worse, because when you open a cluttered wardrobe full of random, disconnected pieces, your brain goes into overwhelm mode.
Here’s what happens:
✔ Your brain can’t process all the visual clutter.
✔ It defaults to what feels familiar, the same outfits you’ve been wearing on repeat.
✔ You start feeling like your style is “boring” and that you need to buy more… and the cycle continues.
But it’s not about buying more. It’s about making intentional choices that actually support your daily life.
Your Wardrobe, Your Life. Let’s Make Them Match!
Ever feel like your wardrobe doesn’t quite reflect who you are? You’re not alone! That’s why I created this quick and fun Style Personality quiz to help you align it with your signature look.
In just 2 minutes, you’ll get a breakdown of your style, you’ll gain instant insights into how your lifestyle, your daily routine, your weekends, your travels, directly shapes the clothes you actually need, so you can stop feeling stuck in an outdated version of your wardrobe and start curating a closet that fits your life, your energy, and your personal taste.
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Step 2: Lifestyle Profiling
Once you’ve taken the quiz, we go even deeper.
1️⃣ Break your life into categories, work, social events, leisure, travel (if that’s a big one for you).
2️⃣ Figure out how much time you spend in each area in percentages. Maybe your week is 50% work, 30% casual social events, and 20% downtime. Or maybe it’s totally different. The key is knowing what your actual life looks like.
3️⃣ Align your wardrobe with those numbers. If 50% of your time is spent working, but only 10% of your closet is work-friendly, that’s why you’re struggling. If your weekends are all about comfort and relaxation, but your wardrobe is 70% structured pieces, of course things feel off.
Once you do this, everything clicks.
You’ll finally understand why certain outfits never feel quite right, because they don’t match where you are in life right now.
Now, It’s Your Turn.
Take the quiz. It’s not about picking a style, but understanding how to curate a wardrobe that actually supports your life, instead of working against it.
Because once you stop trying to “find your style” and start aligning your wardrobe with your actual life?
That’s when the magic happens.
Coming Next Week… You Won’t Want to Miss This!
Now that we’ve uncovered the real key to style, let’s take it up a notch.
In next week’s issue, we’re stepping into Spring 2025 with a deep dive into the best accessories of the season, because sometimes, all it takes is the right finishing touch to refresh your wardrobe without buying into every trend. Accessories are the easiest way to add personality, keep your outfits feeling current, and avoid spending a fortune on clothes you don’t actually need.
Plus, with wedding season around the corner, I’ll be sharing a guide to the chicest wedding guest outfits, how to look stunning without upstaging the bride (obviously). And let’s be real, splurging on a dress that ends up collecting dust in your wardrobe? Not ideal. I’ve got tips on how to find gorgeous options that won’t be one-and-done.
Get ready, it’s going to be good.
Are you feeling ready to refresh your wardrobe and step into spring with a closet that actually works for you, complete with a personalised LookBook of 30+ effortless outfits from pieces you already own? let’s chat! Book a discovery call HERE.
See you next week!
With love,
Carolina X